Failure to Learn … Failure to Grow

Who worries about failure? Lots of students, it seems. Some students worry because things are going badly in their studies, social life or plans for the future. Other students worry because things are going really well and they are putting pressure on themselves to continue to be successful.

You arrive at University buckling under the weight of expectations. You carry the hopes of friends and family as well as their own and that’s before you get to the financial burdens, time constraints and pressure you put on yourself. A new city, friends and subject, can all whip you into a state of high anxiety. It’s exciting! There can be anticipation of the buzz of a new social circle and a life-changing career. Perhaps you feel as if you are reaching for the moon and maybe, just maybe, you will grasp it, with a confident hand.

The reality is grounding, and the dream can evaporate once the grunt work kicks in. With no time or money to socialise, you might soon find that there’s more work than play. The workload can be daunting and its execution, isolating. Joining new societies and groups of friends can be overwhelming. You were captain of your school team and now you’re on the reserve bench. You’re getting great grades, yet feeling very alone. Those new friends didn’t appear.

Funded by the Lancaster University Friends programme, we ran a short coaching programme designed to challenge students to put into practice strategies for learning more and fulfilling their potential.  The coaching offered an invitation to become more aware of habits and responses, to help students realise where they can make alternative choices, and to give strategies to students to find the confidence to trust themselves in what they do.

Email the team at whatif@willmedd.com for more information or to discuss how we might help you explore failure with students.